I’m outing myself.
I have been following the news about Katie Holmes’ stealth divorce from Tom Cruise in People Magazine, US Weekly, and on various news outlets (aka tabloid press) on the internet.
Judge me if you must – but I’m fascinated by this drama and amazed at how Ms. Holmes pulled it all off.
Having just read OMG! on Yahoo – my head is spinning. Katie was not playing! She wanted out, she wanted her freedom, and she was not going to settle for joint custody.
I’m not mad at her. Cheers, Ms. Holmes!
When I read how she enlisted the help, support, and “we don’t play that!” help of her parents – I was practically applauding.
“It turns out one of the toughest attorneys Holmes had on her side was reportedly her own father. “It’s his way or the highway,” a fellow attorney tells People of Martin Holmes, 67, a top divorce lawyer in Toledo, Ohio, who helped lay out Holmes’ strategy for the split. “He’ll look a storm in the eye and make sure he’s standing when it’s over,” adds former mayor Carty Finkbeiner. “
“It’s been reported that after Katie filed for divorce from Cruise, a decision which is said to have “blindsided” the “Rock of Ages” actor, she fired all of his staffers, including his security detail, and replaced them with a new team that was vetted by her Ohio-based attorney father, Martin Holmes.”
“Katie’s father Martin Holmes is an attorney and he is giving advice to his daughter during the divorce proceedings. Katie is relying on her parents now more than ever and they have been her rock,” the insider added.
Hot damn and that’s what I’m talking about.
Of course I do not know the ins and outs of the Holmes/Cruise marriage and divorce, but I do know how important it is for a person to get help, support, and encouragement from family members when it’s time for a mega change.
Some people would continue to suffer through a bad marriage or awful situation in fear of how it would look to family members and others. They would choose to suffer in silence to keep up appearances. They would allow their egos to stifle their voice and need to ask for help.
My short message to Katie Holmes is:
- You are never alone.
- It’s great to have phenomenal multigenerational help and support.
- Kudos to you for realizing this and taking action.
- You have modeled for your daughter how to lean into fear and solicit help when you are at your most vulnerable.
- Brava for taking your life back.
Ok, if you dare – what’s your take on all of this?
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