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Kanesha goes an a diet, a self-care diet.

Did you know September is Self-Improvement Month?

Yup, it sure is.

When August was ending and I was looking ahead to September, I wanted to make sure I was moving ahead in various areas of my life.

I identified five key areas to work on:

Multigenerational family:  Slowing down to spend more time together. Focusing on communication to avoid the bumpy patches we had experienced in the spring.

Work:  Transitioning from my faculty position to work on my personal/professional coaching business full-time. Writing and blogging more.

Marriage:  Being intentional about spending quality time together as a couple to keep our connection strong.

Friends:  Shrinking my circle to sustain true and enduring relationships.

Self-care:  Taking better care of myself by listening to my body, relaxing my mind, nurturing my spirit, and igniting my creativity.

I created my September list in hopes of making sure I was tending to all five areas on my list. By the middle of the month, I noticed I was doing well with the top four areas, and not so well with the last area on my list – self-care. (Now, I’m wondering why I listed self-care as the fifth item. Hmm…)

I found myself excited and working hard on writing and coaching. I was losing time creating and this felt exhilarating. At the same time, my brain was tired and I wasn’t exercising. I had so many ideas swirling that I found it hard to rest in the evenings. I was out of balance with resting and playing. I was not tending to my own self-care.

Then, I happened upon Pam Slim’s presentation on 10 Ways to Maintain Your Sanity While Hustling Your Startup. This was right on time.

I paid particular attention to Pam’s fifth Sanity Keeperchoose wheatgrass juice over a crack pipe.

My takeaway was I needed to be taking exceptional care of myself – right now – so I could have the health and energy to master my list of five.

That day (in mid-September), I immediately got up from my desk, took a 10 minute walk, and put myself on a self-care diet. Yup, a self-care diet.

I tapered my to-do list. I scheduled more time for physical activity. I started eating lunch slowly, making more crafts, and resting more. I tracked my progress on my self-care diet by making sure I was nurturing my mind, body, spirit, and creativity daily. This meant I had to say no to other things – a lot – and that felt great.

September is wrapping up which means Self-Improvement Month is coming to a close. BUT, this does not mean my self-care diet is ending. I’m committed to maintaining my self-care practices and I have shared my intentions with my multigenerational family.  They are going on this self-care diet, too. Yay!

I would love for you to join us! I’m kicking off a fun (and FREE) self-care series called:

The aim is for you (well, all of us) to use the next four weeks to nourish your mind, body, spirit, and creativity – at your own pace. Go as fast or as slow as you want. Stop and restart the series whenever you want.

I will be doing the same activities, with my multigenerational family, and would love some cyber company.

If you would like to find out more or are interested in signing-up, click here.


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Setting clear intentions

It has been one hot and rainy summer in Colorado. Autumn is my favorite season and I’m glad it is on the way – because I need a bit of relief from the heat.

What is a bit sad though, with autumn’s arrival, is the departure of all the great daylight, specifically after work hours.

Hubby and I are currently taking advantage of the sun’s current late bedtime. We like to take an evening stroll, just the two of us – to reconnect our marriage dots. Our rules, during this 20-to-30 minute stroll are:

  • No talk about work
  • Share at least one dream – or how you are moving closer to that dream
  • Share one thing that is working well in our multigenerational family – and one that needs improvement
  • Breathe deeply
  • Hold hands – for as long as possible

Last night’s walk was closer to 30 minutes and for whatever reason, hubby and I were discussing the power of setting intentions. We talked about how we both feel a surge of good energy when we send a clear message to ourselves about how we want our work day, evening at home, family outing, downtime, etc…to go. We agreed that sharing these intentions with other, our kids, and my mother-in-law is a great way to keep communication clear and to open ourselves up to support within our nest. We also agreed sharing these intentions holds us accountable and we are setting a good example for our kids.

Since I’ve recently returned to work, after a month long vacation, I have set the intention to get enough sleep. That means I need to be clear about what I can get done at work and how much work I need to bring home. I also need to be clear about making sure exercising doesn’t get bumped off my schedule because lately, that’s been the first thing to go.

I did talk to my mother-in-law about my wellness intentions and told her that I would be leaving the house earlier on certain days or coming home later so that I could workout. She thought that was a good idea – so it’s out there and I need to take that step. I’ve also shared this wellness intention with my children and I’ve asked them to reach out to their father or my mother-in-law if they need something and while I’m working out in our home. They gave me some long sighs, but then agreed once I explained I need to take good care of myself in order to take good care of them.

As hubby and I were returning from our walk, and feeling energized by our intention chat, we ran into our neighbors who have a one-year-old daughter. We chatted about their summer vacation, if we had or had not met the new family that moved into our neighborhood, and then they wanted to know how we were on a walk – alone – without the kids.

Hubby casually mentioned his mother was in the house with the kids and our neighbors gave us a look of longing because as working parents, with a young baby, they would love to have a granny nanny too. I smiled and said,

“If you really want a multigenerational set-up similar to ours, then be clear and set an intention.”

Our neighbor said he would get right on that.

How often do you set a clear intention for yourself? What process or steps do you use?

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