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Mad Men – Season 5

Slow start to this Monday due to ringing in the season five premiere of Mad Men. Thank goodness it’s spring break!

As usual, I got together with my wonderful group of Sunday night ladies. The icing on the cake is my mother is in town – so she tagged along for the crazy antics of Mad Men fanatics, 60s inspired nibbles, corks a popping, and muddling madness for a proper old fashioned.

My mother-in-law knew I was prepping for this event (I mean, we waited for 17 months!) and she wondered why we weren’t making another dress this time around. Honestly, I started my prep a bit on the late side – so I just went for simple crafting that did not require too much supervision.

(Hubby did step in with his T-square to help me line up the letters – so I guess that was some supervision. And yes, we are a fun, crazy, and over-crafting, multigenerational house – 24/7).

The season five opener, for Mad Men, was totally juicy. There was so much to digest, analyze, relate back to previous episodes, and swoon over.

5 juicy takeaways for me:

  • Megan Draper has solidified in my mind – I need to get back to learning French.
  • Lane Pryce was in love with the Black Playboy Bunny  – but can’t trust the Black cab driver with a wallet.
  • Pete Campbell  is a cry baby and can’t get out of his own way.
  • Roger Sterling wants to be Don Draper – and Jane Sterling wants Roger to be Don Draper, too.
  • Joan Harris needs my coaching on how to work with her mother and benefit from a granny nanny. (Roger being the baby daddy and smoking while holding his son – well that’s a completely different blog post.)

Even though Joan is a fictional character, she does represent a lot of challenges mothers and working mother experience. I mean, my group of friends and I did a lot of yelling at the television when Joan was completely exhausted, called her mother out for needing “granny formula”, stressed about being replaced at work, and the overall overwhelm that comes from having a baby.

If I could call Joan up and coach her a bit on creating a positive “granny nanny” relationship, I would encourage the following:

  • Invite your mother to be a caregiving partner (use that language). That’s a different expectation than being your mom and being the grandmother of your baby.
  • Establish some norms. Tell your mother what type of mom you are trying to be for the next 3 months – and ask her, directly, if she can help you do this.
  • Admit your fears. Tell your mother what you are fearing the most as a new mother. Ask her to share her fears when she became a mother. Look for the commonalities – then use this as an opportunity to grow and build a stronger caregiving partner bond.
  • Exercise some healthy selfishness.  Ask for what you need – so that you’ll be able to take care of yourself – and then do a great job taking care of your baby.
  • Focus on the positive and stay in the moment. Many interactions will be stressful, tiring, and annoying. Come up with a phrase your mother and you can say (or shout) to bring you back to the present moment when you are going down a bumpy road. Suggestion: Martini time!

What other suggestions do you have for Joan?

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Manic Monday

Spring break was relaxing, fantastic, lazy, and overly fun.

We did not travel this year and went about our vacation week at whatever pace was fitting for that minute, hour, or day.

With that luxury of leisure time lulling us all into a hypnotic state of pure bliss, re-entry back into our normal pace of things was complete chaos.

Nobody was moving fast on Monday morning, and none of us nudged the other. It was raining a bit which seemed to set an unrealistic cadence in how we recalibrated to the reality of morning activities. We were moving way too slowly.

The TV news was on in the background and the only thing that focused our attention was GMA’s report about our small town and the alien sighting.

(Huh? When was this? Must have been during spring break when we ignored the outside world.)

Hubby was in charge of dropping the 11-year-old off because he was using the car. This meant his morning schedule was even tighter because our daughter  could not arrive late for school.

I was yelling down the stairs – going over the verbal checklist – making sure she had the tools for being a productive 6th grader:

  • sunscreen
  • check for lunch account
  • viola
  • lunch (Her: “No mommy, you gave me check for school lunch.” / Me: “Duh!”)
  • backpack
  • umbrella
  • smooches from mommy

Once they were gone, I had one more hurdle to get over. This hurdle was rousing the 3-year-old from bed – which is not very fun. On this particular morning, he couldn’t get up because “he had no energy.”

Other mornings he cannot get up because he has one or a combo of the following ailments: hiccups, itchies, needs more dream time, bed is too snuggly, nighttime diaper so full he can’t move…and the list goes on. The point is my little guy is not a morning child.

I stared down at him, all cozy and sweet in his footed pajamas, and took a deep breath. I would not lose my patience (or miss my bus) during this potential showdown in getting the 3-year-old dressed. It took me about 25 minutes to get him out of the bed, PJs off, clothes on, teeth brushed, hair combed, tears wiped…and all the rest of the “but why do I have to get up today” drama – so he could be ready for preschool.

I rushed downstairs with hubby’s wallet I found in the bathroom, my laptop on one hip, the sullen 3-year-old on the other hip, and my cell phone lodged between my ear and shoulder – calling hubby to tell him to return home for his wallet.

Then I saw my mother-in-law. My face twisted up into a nonverbal WTH look.

My mother-in-law was STILL in her pajamas. Uhm, what was going on here?

Me:  “So, are you taking him to preschool in your pajamas? I’m not judging, just wondering.”

Mother-in-law:  “He doesn’t go back to school until Wednesday. Preschool is not in session today. I put it on the calendar”

WHAT?

I looked at my mother-in-law and busted out laughing. I didn’t even know preschool was closed and I wrestled with the 3-year-old for absolutely no reason. I could have left him sleeping in bed and had a turtle slow morning for myself.

And the calendar – the calendar I demand everyone use as the communication station to keep us all on track – I had not looked at it. My bad!

I chuckled some more, shook off my rushed energy, and went to grab my travel mug. Hubby had made my favorite tea, but left his wallet. We had an abundance of chaos going on.

My bus was coming and I hustled out the house. My mother-in-law and 3-year-old went out onto the back porch to wave to me as I stood on the bus stop. As I waved to them – after running to the bus stop and not spilling my tea – I saw hubby returning to the house for his wallet. I waved at him too.

As I relaxed on my bus ride to work, I thought about all the chaos that had transpired before 8 a.m.

I’m sure my mother-in-law thought I was a nutcase that morning. She was right and I’m just fine with that. I have other days, this week, to be on top of things – maybe.

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Multigenerational vacations & travel – We want to hear from you!

Dear it’s a full nest readers,

Margot and I have a fever – spring fever!

Spring break is right around the corner and we are so ready for a vacation!

My spring break will be 50% multigenerational and 50% with my nuclear family. I am counting the days until I can relax with the family and veg out a little.

To celebrate well deserved vacation time and our blog anniversary (one year in May!); we want to dedicate a full month to the topic of multigenerational travel.

During April 18 – May 18, Margot and I will share some of our multigenerational vacation stories.

2008 – My daughter & mother-in-law in Paris

We’d like to invite you to share your multigenerational vacation stories as well.

Submissions will be accepted until April 11, 2011.

Margot and I will go through your submissions and then pick some of our favorites. Some of the selections will be highlighted in various “the best of” posts – on it’s a full nest.

All submissions should go to: itsafullnest {at} yahoo {dot} com

What kinds of submissions are we seeking?

“How to” ideas describing how to plan a multigenerational vacation. If there are specific steps you took to ensure a great time with your multigenerational family, please tell us. We’d also like to know what travel pitfalls to avoid.

2008 – My son and my mother in Paris

Great photography. Any interesting pictures, with great captions, that show your multigenerational vacation would be excellent.

Past multigenerational vacations. If you are not taking a multigenerational vacation this year, but have done so in previous years, please tell us about that.

Awesome giveaways for our readers during multigenerational travel month. If you have a travel guide or product that supports multigenerational travel and would like to offer it as a giveaway, let us know.

Short bio. Be sure to include a 75 word or less bio about yourself with your submission. If you have a blog, website, twitter account, facebook page – you know where I’m going – feel free to include that information with your bio. We can include a picture of you too – if you want.

DISCLAIMER. Yes, we have to go there.

1. We are not able to post/include everything that gets emailed to us. Margot and I will select submissions that fit the theme of our blog. We hope you understand this and do not take it personally if your submission is not selected.

2. We will give proper credit to all submissions. We just want you to know, and remember, that there may be some duplicate ideas. Great minds think alike, right?

3. You’ll be our guest on the blog. And because you are our guest, we cannot offer you any monetary compensation.

Please submit your ideas no later than April 11, 2011. We extended the date to April 18, 2011. (See how flexible we are!)

We look forward to hearing from you!

Thanks!


 

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