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Postive Thinking Day {a day late, but feeling great!}

Everything always passes, and everything is already okay.  Stay in the place where you can see that, and nothing will resist you.

—Martha Beck

I met a woman at a recent networking event. We were able to connect our career passions and will be working on an upcoming project together. Positive!

During this connection, somehow the topic was shifted to my mother-in-law living with us and how we are enjoying the roller coaster of fun and wacky in our multigenerational home. Positive!

Then she asked me, “So tell me, do you really get along with your mother-in-law?”

Me: “Yes!”

Positive!

Her: “No, I’m mean really get along with her, as in she never gets on your nerves?”

Me:  “Well, yes, I really get along with her, and yes, she can get on my nerves. Shoot, I even get on my own nerves, as does my hubby, and the kids. We’re a family, not robots. We can really work each others’ nerves – and then it passes and lovefest returns.”

Her: “That’s nice that you have such a positive attitude about this. My mother-in-law is the spawn of Satan and I have to smug the house after she visits.”

Totally not positive!

I have to admit it, I do have a positive outlook on my relationship with my mother-in-law. I mean, my energy does play a factor in our interactions, so why not keep it positive and upbeat? Now, I’m not saying I pretend everything is happy-go-lucky. That’s not being positive, that’s being fake, and we don’t have any room for that in our multigenerational home.

As I’ve mentioned before, sometimes we get it right, kinda right, or mega wrong. Then we reflect, rebuild, and move on in a positive manner. Grudges are silly and wasted energy and do not appear on our positive, multigenerational family, thinking spectrum.

I borrowed the 10 Ways to Create a Positive Day – and applied them to

10 Way to Create a Positive Multigenerational Family and Home.

1. Use affirmations – Read and listen to affirmations about the power and beauty of making and maintaining positive connections with your family.

2. Intention – Set your intention, each day, to have positive interactions with family members. Remember you set the tone for the type of energy you send out.

3. Mindfulness – Stay in the moment and notice the many miracles that are occurring for your family and you. Don’t look down the road. Focus on the right now.

4. Link to think -Pick something you do, as a family, frequently and use that as a guide to think a positive thought.

5. Gratitude – Keep a family gratitude journal. Each family should record something they are grateful for – on a daily basis. We all need to slow down and acknowledge this.

6. Inspiration – Read and watch inspirational and motivational material to lift your mood. (Positive Thinking Day said it best, and I completely agree.)

7. Positive people – Surround yourself with positive people who nurture your family and you. It’s great if you can connect with other healthy multigenerational families.

8. Kindness – Be kind to yourself and your family. Words and actions are powerful. Always act from a place of love.

9. Applied faith – Trust that every situation has the seeds for growth and opportunity. (Positive Thinking Day said it best, and I completely agree.)

10. Smile – Smile because it feels good and it makes you look good. Who doesn’t like to be greeted with a warm smile?

 

 

What things do you do, on a daily basis, to stay positive and to generate positive thoughts?

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Setting clear intentions

It has been one hot and rainy summer in Colorado. Autumn is my favorite season and I’m glad it is on the way – because I need a bit of relief from the heat.

What is a bit sad though, with autumn’s arrival, is the departure of all the great daylight, specifically after work hours.

Hubby and I are currently taking advantage of the sun’s current late bedtime. We like to take an evening stroll, just the two of us – to reconnect our marriage dots. Our rules, during this 20-to-30 minute stroll are:

  • No talk about work
  • Share at least one dream – or how you are moving closer to that dream
  • Share one thing that is working well in our multigenerational family – and one that needs improvement
  • Breathe deeply
  • Hold hands – for as long as possible

Last night’s walk was closer to 30 minutes and for whatever reason, hubby and I were discussing the power of setting intentions. We talked about how we both feel a surge of good energy when we send a clear message to ourselves about how we want our work day, evening at home, family outing, downtime, etc…to go. We agreed that sharing these intentions with other, our kids, and my mother-in-law is a great way to keep communication clear and to open ourselves up to support within our nest. We also agreed sharing these intentions holds us accountable and we are setting a good example for our kids.

Since I’ve recently returned to work, after a month long vacation, I have set the intention to get enough sleep. That means I need to be clear about what I can get done at work and how much work I need to bring home. I also need to be clear about making sure exercising doesn’t get bumped off my schedule because lately, that’s been the first thing to go.

I did talk to my mother-in-law about my wellness intentions and told her that I would be leaving the house earlier on certain days or coming home later so that I could workout. She thought that was a good idea – so it’s out there and I need to take that step. I’ve also shared this wellness intention with my children and I’ve asked them to reach out to their father or my mother-in-law if they need something and while I’m working out in our home. They gave me some long sighs, but then agreed once I explained I need to take good care of myself in order to take good care of them.

As hubby and I were returning from our walk, and feeling energized by our intention chat, we ran into our neighbors who have a one-year-old daughter. We chatted about their summer vacation, if we had or had not met the new family that moved into our neighborhood, and then they wanted to know how we were on a walk – alone – without the kids.

Hubby casually mentioned his mother was in the house with the kids and our neighbors gave us a look of longing because as working parents, with a young baby, they would love to have a granny nanny too. I smiled and said,

“If you really want a multigenerational set-up similar to ours, then be clear and set an intention.”

Our neighbor said he would get right on that.

How often do you set a clear intention for yourself? What process or steps do you use?

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