This past weekend, we celebrated Mother-in-law Day.
I told my mother-in-law we would be taking her out to lunch to celebrate. She was a bit more excited than I thought she would be, but hey, I am fun to be around.
Per usual, being in Boulder, we got a bunch of stares because:
(1) there are not many African American families walking around this town;
(2) folks are always wondering how my mother-in-law fits in with our group because she’s not brown but my kids are wildly and loudly saying GRANDMA;
(3) and we tend to break out into song, made up songs mind you, about things we see going on around us.
It’s multigenerational zaniness at its best.
When hubby and I toasted my mother-in-law and thanked her for being the marshal (aka stable keeper) during this über busy month of October, my daughter looked at me and said, “Mommy, I know we are celebrating grandma. What mother celebration do you get today?”
I had to think about it.
I had to think about all the things I’ve learned, from my mother-in-law, in how to be a mother, mother-in-law, grandmother, entrepreneur, girlfriend, artist, and a “I’ll do whatever the hell I want to do” lady.
These amazing lessons – that come easily, quickly, frustratingly, humorously, painfully, lovingly, and wackily – are all to be celebrated.
Since this is the 13th year of my mother-in-law, being my mother-in-law, I created a list of the top 13 things I have learned (a) from my mother-in-law (b) by observing my mother-in-law (c) and by living with my mother-in-law – listed in no particular order:
- Live your life on your own terms
- Baking is therapeutic
- Stay in your own business
- Keep your body healthy
- Sarcasm is tricky
- Red boots are a staple fashion item
- Massage therapy is not optional
- Schedule your annual medical appointments and don’t skip them
- Poetry is beautiful storytelling
- Never apologize for being the real you
- Electric scissors are magic
- Rhubarb is very versatile
- Tell your kids you love them – all the time