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Nests

Hey IAFN Readers,

I’ve been writing like crazy – super determined to finish my eBook on nurturing in-law relationships.

I’ll write something- and think I’m done – but then a coaching client with bring up another gem that should for sure BE in the book.

This is indeed a labor of love – which I liken to the time, energy, patience, and openness that goes into nurturing a thriving a multigenerational nest.

And with that…I’m listening to my oldest play Lady Gaga Fugue on the piano – before my mother-in-law whisks her off to piano lessons. I also have a snugly person on my lap which is making typing this a pleasant challenge.

Yup, a quick peek into our this multigenerational nest on an average Tuesday.

I leave you with these lovely nests – that I Googled and found on Pinterest when I was relaxing my brain and taking a writing break.

Enjoy!

 

 

My cake decorating skills kinda don’t exist. But, I’m thinking my multigenerational nest would love to create these cupcakes.

source – Martha Stewart

 

Loved that Leslie, my friend, captured this beautiful picture – tucked in the eaves at her home.

source – Leslie Bixler

 

Looks yummy and easy to make, yes?

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Just imagine the names from our multigenerational nest – engraved on these rocks.

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This would be fun to make with my kids and my mother-in-law, but I don’t want to distract my mother-in-law from making my new Wonder Woman apron.

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How I feel about our multigenerational home.

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‘Nuff said!

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Quotes to help manage holiday stress

I’m sure you’ve seen a lot of “how to avoid holiday stress” articles, newsfeeds, blog posts, tweets, facebook posts, etc… on various media outlets as Thanksgiving approaches.

I made a comment to a coaching colleague that as grown-ups we should “know better” and not have to reorient ourselves, each year, on how to enjoy the holiday season. He laughed at my comment and took me to task on what I was dreading with my own holiday events coming up.

(influx of visitors, picky eaters, competitive check-ins, relatives checking on your weight gain, etc.)

Wow!

Nothing like being called out. (Thanks P.B.!)

To capture my conversation with P.B., I selected five quotes that serve as reminders on how to:

  • stay in your own lane
  • speak your truth
  • notice the energy you are generating
  • really practice open communication
  • get out of your own way

Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. –Hardy D. Jackson

  • Set proper boundaries and communicate them with loved ones.
  • Designate a space/area for “time-outs”.
  • Shift your energy to fuel yourself.

Accept everything about yourself–I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end–no apologies, no regrets. –Clark Moustakas

  • Do not try to impress loved ones – you are enough.
  • Loved ones may have comments and feedback to offer. Thank them and move on.
  • Enter into each interaction with the mindset that it will be positive.

Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do and damned if you don’t. –Eleanor Roosevelt

  • If a conversation doesn’t feel right, graciously end it.
  • Avoid family gossip.
  • Just because we know better, do we always do better?

Learn to live with self and you will learn to live with others. –Edgar Cayce

  • Recognize that family time is not promised.
  • Stay in the moment and notice the positive interactions.
  • Laugh, love, and move on.

The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. –Anna Quindlen

  • Be true with your feelings and desires – then communicate this to your loved ones.
  • Teach your loved ones how you want to be treated – gentle guidance works well.
  • Doing your best is better than perfection.
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Now is the time {musings inspired by an indie flick}

I’m glad it’s Saturday and I’m glad hubby whisked the kids away so I could have a bit of alone time. I’ve been trying to formally schedule my downtime because the holiday season is knocking on my door and I promised myself I would not yield to the frothy frenzy that makes this time of year not so fun.

Being completely honesty, I was counting the minutes until hubby and the kids were out the door. I had an R-rated, indie film cued up so I could sit and be transported to the world, life, and “what does it all mean” interactions of a different cast of characters.

I had no idea the movie I selected would prompt me to write five pages in my gratitude journal, cry my eyes out, and check the “important papers” file.

What movie was this? Hesher. (Check out the synopsis.)

I selected Hesher for my “downtime” viewing because:

  • I enjoy edgy and dark films.
  • Hubby said, “WTH!”, when he saw the movie’s preview. (Good sign I’d like the movie.)
  • I was excited about the cast (N. Portman, R. Wilson, J. Gordon-Levitt, and P. Laurie).
  • Hubby would have snored through the movie, and that would have been annoying.
  • It was available in the Red Box.

This film is not upbeat, has a bunch of saucy language, shows the intensity of human suffering, and magnifies how women are the strong and connective glue of a multigenerational family.

My biggest takeaways were:

[Spoiler Alert]

In the twisted and final scene, when I was crying the most, Hesher makes good on his promise to spend time with Grandma.

No, not the most ideal time to reach out to someone, but it definitely speaks volumes about human connections, the intensity of love, and how our emotions cannot be squashed.

I would give this movie three and a half multigenerational stars (out of 4).


Have any movies, with multigenerational themes, thrilled and/or moved you lately?

image: covershut.com

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This Moment {9.2.11}

“I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people”

-Vincent van Gogh

A Friday ritual.

A single photo bunch of photos – inspirational words – capturing a moment from the week.

A simple, special, extraordinary moment.

A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

Inspired by SouleMama.
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Feel free to share your {this moment} link in the comment section and/or any inspirational words.
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