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This flowchart, about being Facebook friends with your parents, cracked me up!
So, yes, I am Facebook friends with my mother-in-law. Don’t gasp, it’s not that bad; in fact, it’s not bad at all.
We already live together, and I blog about us living together, so how can it even be a big deal that my mother-in-law and I are Facebook friends? There’s not too much I can hide or plan on hiding.
Here are the FAQs I received about Facebook, other social media, and multigenerational living:
Did you feel like you had to accept your mother-in-law’s friend request?
No. I’m Facebook friends with my own mother, so I didn’t see a problem being Facebook friends with my mother-in-law. If my memory is working in my favor, I think I was the one who suggested she join Facebook.
My stepdad is not on Facebook and he cannot work a computer. It’s pretty much the same deal with my father-in-law, although I know he does enjoy the internet.
Are you Facebook friends with any other “via marriage “relatives?
Yes and this is potentially complicated – but so far so good.
Hubby’s bro and bro’s wife (my awesome sister-in-law) are my Facebook friends – that’s pretty much the only way I can keep up with them. (That’s all I’m saying about that.)
Hubby’s sis is not on Facebook – nor is her hubby.
Then I LOVE my two female cousins-in-law – who are married to hubby’s cousins. Lots of great chat there – and their mother-in-law (my MIL’s sister) is NOT on Facebook – which is a good thing.
We recently got into a Facebook “conversation” about planning a multigenerational vacation – and setting up a “fantasy family” (like fantasy football) of relatives who could go on this vacation with us. Yes, we’re wacky!
Hubby has two other undergraduate/college aged cousins on Facebook and I’m Facebook friends with them. It’s nice to keep up with their adventures. My mother-in-law repeats the stuff I read about them on Facebook. Consistency is good – I guess.
Are you Facebook friends with your husband?
No. He’s no longer on Facebook because I kicked him off. Just kidding. He deactivated Facebook because of his job.
Are your kids on Facebook or Twitter?
The 11-year-old is not interested (thank goodness!). She does have her own mobile phone and texts.
The three-year-old is mad he doesn’t have his own laptop. Oh well.
Do you watch what you post, because of your mother-in-law, on Facebook?
I try to post fun, informational, and inspirational stuff on Facebook. I also like to get into Facebook “chats” about reality TV shows or awards shows.
My mother-in-law can see whatever I post – no edits there. Same thing with my mother…and other relatives (except for one of my own cousins who I think is a bit touched). I don’t hide my wall or put them on limited views.
Does your mother-in-law comment or post stuff on your Facebook wall?
Rarely. She has commented on one-or-two Facebook posts on the it’s a full nest page.
I wouldn’t mind if she wanted to comment on something.
I post stuff on her wall probably every other week. I mostly send email messages or texts. I see her everyday – so plenty of time to talk face-to-face.
Have you ever gotten into a Facebook argument with your mother-in-law?
No! That’s ridiculous.
No. That’s rude.
Do I ever vent? Of course I do. Facebook and Twitter are not the place for that.
Do you ever think about defriending your mother-in-law on Facebook?
No, I have not thought about doing that– yet.
Do you worry about your mother-in-law defriending you on Facebook?
No. I never thought about it. If she did defriend me – I think I would be upset. Hmmm…yes, I would be upset.
What does your mother-in-law think about your blog, it’s full nest?
I don’t think she hates it, but she’s never told me she liked it. I know she does read it.
She is supportive and helps me capture moments by taking pictures. She’ll sometimes respond to a request if I want to ask her something – as research – for the blog (yes, sometimes).
As I have mentioned, she does cook most of the dinnertime meals, and she hasn’t poisoned me (not that I’m worried). This leads me to believe she’s OK with the blog.
I wouldn’t say she’s thrilled, though. I’m sure the blog makes her a bit nervous because she’s doesn’t know what I’m going to post. I focus on being honest about my experiences in our multigenerational household. I do not try to tell my mother-in-law’s story.
All families have good stuff and complicated issues. We’re no different in that.
No, not yet.
I told her, just last week, I would teach her how to tweet. I better put that on my calendar.