Obscure Holiday + Scary Conversation = Pro-activity

epitaph: a brief statement commemorating or epitomizing a deceased person or something past

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Today is officially Plan Your Epitaph Day.

What, it’s not on your calendar?

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Here’s 5 reasons it should be:

During “real” holidays, people are too focused on travel, food, finances, and traditions.  Room is typically not made for serious discussions (e.g. caregiving, advanced directives, wills, etc.) that can positively or adversely affect a family.

With many people fearing end of life conversations, using this holiday as an opener for a proactive discussion can expand the fearful lens to one of reflection and celebration.

Even if the family is not in one place to celebrate Plan Your Epitaph Day, the sentiments can easily be shared using technology. This allows everyone to easily participate in a low pressure situation.

This time could be used to think about relatives who are no longer physically alive but who are living in your heart and memories. Calling relatives or getting together to celebrate deceased family members’ lives during none typical times  (e.g. high holidays, birthdays, funeral anniversary, etc.) can support a family in properly mourning (meaning – not keeping memories bottled up) and keeping joyful memories at the forefront.

Writing your own epitaph, long before you need it, could potentially motivate you to work on areas of your life that keep getting booted from your to do list. This may include tending to items on your bucket list, mending relationships with family members, collecting family history, or taking steps to improve your health and well-being.

What are your thoughts about planning your epitaph before you need it? How could this be beneficial to you and your family?

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2 Responses to Obscure Holiday + Scary Conversation = Pro-activity

  1. I know a lot of people that request things on their grave stones. It’s the lasting identity of a person. How will they be remembered years from now when people see their grave site. Some are arrogant, some are humble, some are sweet and some are strange or even funny. It could make for a great guessing game to see if the family wrote it or the deceased wrote it. The sad part is that not everyone has something written about them.

    • Like the idea of a guessing game – keeping the conversations open about the legacy each of us is leaving.
      Yes, I think it is very sad that memories are not captured for everyone – hmmm…

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