Slow start to this Monday due to ringing in the season five premiere of Mad Men. Thank goodness it’s spring break!
As usual, I got together with my wonderful group of Sunday night ladies. The icing on the cake is my mother is in town – so she tagged along for the crazy antics of Mad Men fanatics, 60s inspired nibbles, corks a popping, and muddling madness for a proper old fashioned.
My mother-in-law knew I was prepping for this event (I mean, we waited for 17 months!) and she wondered why we weren’t making another dress this time around. Honestly, I started my prep a bit on the late side – so I just went for simple crafting that did not require too much supervision.
(Hubby did step in with his T-square to help me line up the letters – so I guess that was some supervision. And yes, we are a fun, crazy, and over-crafting, multigenerational house – 24/7).
The season five opener, for Mad Men, was totally juicy. There was so much to digest, analyze, relate back to previous episodes, and swoon over.
5 juicy takeaways for me:
- Megan Draper has solidified in my mind – I need to get back to learning French.
- Lane Pryce was in love with the Black Playboy Bunny – but can’t trust the Black cab driver with a wallet.
- Pete Campbell is a cry baby and can’t get out of his own way.
- Roger Sterling wants to be Don Draper – and Jane Sterling wants Roger to be Don Draper, too.
- Joan Harris needs my coaching on how to work with her mother and benefit from a granny nanny. (Roger being the baby daddy and smoking while holding his son – well that’s a completely different blog post.)
Even though Joan is a fictional character, she does represent a lot of challenges mothers and working mother experience. I mean, my group of friends and I did a lot of yelling at the television when Joan was completely exhausted, called her mother out for needing “granny formula”, stressed about being replaced at work, and the overall overwhelm that comes from having a baby.
If I could call Joan up and coach her a bit on creating a positive “granny nanny” relationship, I would encourage the following:
- Invite your mother to be a caregiving partner (use that language). That’s a different expectation than being your mom and being the grandmother of your baby.
- Establish some norms. Tell your mother what type of mom you are trying to be for the next 3 months – and ask her, directly, if she can help you do this.
- Admit your fears. Tell your mother what you are fearing the most as a new mother. Ask her to share her fears when she became a mother. Look for the commonalities – then use this as an opportunity to grow and build a stronger caregiving partner bond.
- Exercise some healthy selfishness. Ask for what you need – so that you’ll be able to take care of yourself – and then do a great job taking care of your baby.
- Focus on the positive and stay in the moment. Many interactions will be stressful, tiring, and annoying. Come up with a phrase your mother and you can say (or shout) to bring you back to the present moment when you are going down a bumpy road. Suggestion: Martini time!
What other suggestions do you have for Joan?