Written by Tahllee
As we approach another Father’s day… reminded by the marketing engine that is alive and well – despite the development of advanced remotes that allow one to fast forward… I reflect on being a Father in the multigenerational home.
For me the multigenerational home brings freedom and a new level of being content. Our arrangement really makes it easier to juggle all the demands and desires that I have in my life.
It is an opportunity that provides special moments, expanded knowledge and understanding of the world, new discussion topics, reminders of moments from my childhood that I had forgotten, increased awareness of diverse perspectives, and evolution of relationships.
The years continue to zoom by with valuable life lessons experienced at an accelerated pace. My relationship with my wife, with my kids, with my mother have all benefited from the opportunities and challenges of life in the multigenerational house.
Years ago, before we were a multigenerational home, I remember reflecting at that time that I had not done a great job that year. My balancing act was off. I spent too much time at the office and too much mental energy trying to solve work related challenges.
I had judged myself and was failing in what really matters.
I always had choices but I was allowing the perceived reality and perceived importance of my current projects to control too much of my life.
Now that I am older and what I believe is wiser, I try to control less, put my energy were it matters, and give more. I pass on opportunities that might seem important but at a more core belief – will just serve as yet another distraction.
Multigenerational living teaches us to slow down and enjoy today while not forgetting the future. We have constant reminders and motivation to balance these aspects of life.
Live with a plan, but have enough flexibility for life. Giving, receiving, caring and sharing are important for all families but are especially important in the multigenerational house.
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What is my favorite thing to do for Father’s Day?
Grill something tasty without it being a competition, go camping with the family, see a great baseball game at Coors Field (go Rockies) – or all the above.
What do I want for Father’s Day this year?
To have the ones that I love know how special they are and that I love them.
Do what is important in life – don’t get distracted by the unimportant – and celebrate our small successes and victories!
Have a wonderful Father’s Day!
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