In my Monday post, I introduced you to a great book about a multigenerational family – Depression Cookies. I also posted a Q&A with the author/daughter, Tia Bach, about writing a book with her mom, Angela Silverthorne.
Here is a Q&A with Angela about writing a book with her daughter, Tia.
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Margot Neufeld: How has writing the book changed, if at all, the relationship you have with your daughters? husband?
Angela Silverthorne: My bond with my three daughters is incredible. Writing the book gave me additional insight into what they were going through during adolescence. I thought I understood, but reading Tia’s chapters made me reflect how a strong family unit is imperative during challenging life experiences. Our strength as a family was being open and honest, maybe to a fault.
My husband has always been supportive of the hours I spend writing. I think he knows it is my form of therapy. However, when he read the book, he was jolted. His whole life had been preparing – his own education and later, three college educations, three weddings, and retirement. The long hours he was absent, the weeks away learning a new job or traveling were extensions of his preparing, planning and protecting the loves of his life. The book made him examine the cost – the loss of precious time he had with his family to make sure they had all he could give. Our relationship is strong because we are soul mates, but it was sad to see his face crumble reading the cost to the family, not just ours, but many others we met along the corporate road.
MN: How did writing the book with Tia change your impressions of her as a daughter?
AS: I always knew Tia was a strong, determined young woman, but hearing her regain a thirteen-year-old voice and relive some harsh moments that she and other young girls face left me numb, making me determined to finish the book and get it into the hands of other mothers and teens.
In the chapters where Tia and I were not on queue; well, that’s life. A thirty-five-year old mother and thirteen-year-old daughter are rarely going to see life through the same lens. I hope that makes the book more plausible.
MN: If anyone were thinking about writing a book with their mom/dad/bro/sis, what advice would you have for them?
AS: Talk openly and honest about what you want to write. It might be fun to say let’s write a book, it’s a lot harder to do it. You better know your writing partner!