Communication + Humor = Awareness for the future

When you live in a multigenerational household, having a good sense of humor is a must! I think effective communication is equally important as the humor.

So yes, I did put that important note on our refrigerator, on Hello Kitty paper no less.

Because I spend so much time in my work life listening, organizing, directing, creating, and counseling – those skills have a way of creeping into my family life. I can honestly say I have good communication skills (and this is feedback I’ve received), but I still have a long way to go; I can do better.

When our multigenerational family is well functioning, everyone is contributing, we all feel honored, and our communication and humor are in perfect balance. We grow and thrive, which makes love flow easily.

When we hit our patches of dysfunction, humor is low, communication is disjointed, and we are all struggle to piece things back together. This is the time when one of us (including the three-year-old) calls our attention to our less than happy state. The “calling out” usually happens at the dinner table.

As I look ahead to 2011, I’m reflecting on 2010 with an honest lens. I’m looking at ways I can be more aware, present, mindful and nurturing of how I fit into our multigenerational family. I’m not setting any resolutions on how to be better at this, but I am taking *Sarah Susanka’s lead by going through a year-end review.

Susanka describes the year-end review as, “…an annual tune-up, when we bring awareness to our lives.  The key is to make this an enjoyable process during witch the faucet can flow…”

-Whole Living, December 2010

I will invite my family members to conduct their own year-end review based on a structure that works for them and honors the ways they communicate with themselves.

In the next few days, I plan to make a journal for everyone (repurposing project for my 2010 calendar), and provide Susanka’s guiding questions as prompts.

Happy New Year!

*My mother-in-law turned me on to Susanka’s book, The Not So Big Life: Making Room for What Really Matters, about a year ago.


6 Responses to Communication + Humor = Awareness for the future

  1. I loved your post Kanesha, and am impressed by your multi-generational household’s tools for staying sane! And of course I’m delighted that you are implementing the Year End Review. A lot of people read it and think that it’s a good idea, but many fewer actually do it. The benefits of course arise from the engagement with the exercise.

    I don’t know where you are located, but thought you might be interested to know that I will be offering another of the Not So Big Life Year End Review workshops next December at Kripalu in the Berkshires of Massachusetts. I know you’d get a lot out of it if you can find a way to attend. But whether our paths cross there or some where else entirely, I certainly hope we’ll meet some day. My best wishes to you and your extended family for the new year.

    Warmly, Sarah

    • Sarah!
      So fun and fantastic for you to visit. (My mother-in-law and I are so excited.) We are really trying to stay present, aware and mindful as we enter 2011, so your tools are right in line with what we need.
      Thanks so much!

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